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6 Strategies to Support Your Strong-Willed Child with Autism

Working with their will instead of opposing it is your responsibility.

Here are the 6 ways to support your strong-willed child.

1. Let your kid figure out the answer:

You can prevent disagreements by letting your child explain what they must do rather than giving instructions.

“What's the last thing we need to do before we head off to school after we've eaten breakfast, packed your bag, and brushed your teeth?”

2. Give your child options:

Offer them a sense of organized power rather than trying to overwhelm them with your own power.

“What do you prefer: pajamas with stars or cars?”

“You want to put on your shoes or your coat first?”

“Would you prefer a muffin or cereal?”

3. Keep a clear expectations:

Do not leave it to your children to determine the rules. The clearer, the better!

“When we go to the grocery store, you can pick one snack, and I'll only buy that one. I can't wait to see what you pick!”

4. Make sure your kid feels heard:

Make sure they know you understand how they feel.

“I understand; you really didn't want to leave the park and go home today; you wanted to stay and play all day.”

5. Don't go to any debates that your child has invited you to:

Based on the values of your family, make a list of what is negotiable and what is not for your house. Which will you permit?

Describe a strong limit.

“Always keep in mind that flexibility is acceptable. Not everything has to be a power battle.”

6. Maintain your boundaries:

Strong-willed children test your limits; this is something to expect during development!

They must be aware of your trustworthiness and commitment to maintaining your boundaries.

Kids will only trust your boundaries if you trust them first.


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